Often we think of goals as something big or some major achievement. But even little goals can have big impact.
A goal can be as simple as deciding “I will not go on my phone tonight before bed” or
“I will walk away from my sister if she is crabby with me”.
How to set goals you can really stick to
- Think about how you want to feel. We usually have goals because we want to feel a certain way, and we think our goals will get us there. Do you want to feel inspired? Stimulated? Interested? Happy? Calm? Excited? Get to the root feelings behind your goal. This will give you perspective on why you really want to achieve that goal.
- Write it down and make it happen. Research has proven that people who write their goals down accomplish significantly more than those who don’t.
- Keep it down to 3. Most of us can’t really focus on more than 5 goals at a time. Once we feel overwhelmed with too many goals, we lose focus and end up procrastinating. Keep it down to 3. This makes goals easy to remember and follow through.
- Make your goals specific and realistic. It’s good to stretch yourself with a big goal that excites you, but write down what you want to achieve specifically. Goals that are too general, vague or almost impossible to achieve won’t move you to action.
- List down baby steps. Divide each goal into baby steps or small actions you can do now.
- Check your goals regularly. Read what you’ve written everyday so it’s always on your mind.
Why set goals in the first place?
- We all have desires. Goals give us focus. It’s human nature to desire for things, experiences or certain feelings. If we’re not clear on what we really want, we’ll always feel something’s slightly off. We’d feel bored, aimless or we’d get easily swayed by the opinions of other people or society.
- Goals help us get to know ourselves. Once you’ve been setting goals and ticking them off for a while, you’ll get to know your own patterns, quirks, likes and dislikes. This knowledge of yourself will help you for the rest of your life, especially when going through big life changes (like finishing school, getting a job, etc).
- Achieving them feels good. That sense of accomplishment once we achieve something we’ve been working hard for is priceless!
- Goals help us grow. Going after goals makes us grow in many ways. We learn life lessons and skills. And even if we don’t achieve all our goals, what matters is the person we become because we try.